Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[Joe Norris]

For fear of backlash, I'm leaving this gender neutral, but I think we can agree that one gender is more apt to participating in this behavior

Personally, the GF and I are open with each other and this isn't really an issue, but one time when we were out I left my phone on the bar with her...she was a bit drunk and decided she'd check the phone out

out of habit, I delete all my texts probably two or three times a day...I think it stems from back in the day where you could only have like 50 texts at a time, but, nevertheless, there wasn't anything incriminating there

however, the call log appeared to have a ton of calls between myself and my "ex" who has been a friend much longer than she was a girlfriend...but, alas, apparently cause I hit that back in the day (haven't in two and a half years) the gf is jealous of her

The only reason it appeared that way was because I don't talk to that many people on the phone and I don't talk that often

Anyway I don't think it's ever legit to go snooping even if you are suspicious...

That was a long post, but what are your thoughts? Does the dynamic change when you're married?

[KVN638]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

I left my facebook logged in on an ex's computer. Her other friends told her it's fair game since I didn't log out. She went through all my messages and found some from a girl she doesn't like. She read the date wrong and thought they were when we were together. She called me and started out with, "I know it's really gay to do, but my friends said it was your fault and fair game, but I look through your messages on facebook and saw some with ***** and that was when we were together (and she was staying with me for 2 weeks while I took care of my parents house while they were away), and it really hurt me."

Anyways, she ended up reading the date wrong and the date was months before I got with her and she laughed and said sorry. I said because she looked through mine, hers were now fair game. She freaked out and got really defensive and then I forced her to because that made me suspicious and she started crying because of messages with guys on there before I dated her... she thought I would actually give a shit. Girls think way differently than guys.


On the jealousy thing. The ex I spoke of above actually became one of my closest friends after we dated, so I understand that, but at the same time we randomly hook up time to time too, so I won't tell any future women about that, just we're friends. I also have a friend (girl) I've known since I was 3. She literally was the girl next door from 3 to 18. She's very attractive and although I've never dated her, every girlfriend I've dated since has not liked me being around her. My friend that's my ex told me it's because she doesn't hide her feelings for me at all and it pisses off girls who are dating me. I've known she's had a fantasy about marrying me since I'm the boy next door forever, she use to tell me we would, but I view her as a sister almost. I still don't get why it's an issue if I have no feelings for her past or present.

Again girls are batshit crazy and horribly jealous. I get jealous at times, but I'm much better at hiding it.

[DeutschHistorian]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=Joe Norris link=topic=132.msg1078#msg1078 date=1280853893]
For fear of backlash, I'm leaving this gender neutral, but I think we can agree that one gender is more apt to participating in this behavior

Personally, the GF and I are open with each other and this isn't really an issue, but one time when we were out I left my phone on the bar with her...she was a bit drunk and decided she'd check the phone out

out of habit, I delete all my texts probably two or three times a day...I think it stems from back in the day where you could only have like 50 texts at a time, but, nevertheless, there wasn't anything incriminating there

however, the call log appeared to have a ton of calls between myself and my "ex" who has been a friend much longer than she was a girlfriend...but, alas, apparently cause I hit that back in the day (haven't in two and a half years) the gf is jealous of her

The only reason it appeared that way was because I don't talk to that many people on the phone and I don't talk that often

Anyway I don't think it's ever legit to go snooping even if you are suspicious...

That was a long post, but what are your thoughts? Does the dynamic change when you're married?
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Would this be Kara we're talking about? All girls want to think for some reason that you've never been with anyone else and that there is no way in hell you can just be friends with any girls even if they're like your best friend. She'll get over it though. It'd be pretty lame if she can't.

[Joe Norris]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

Yeah, Kara is the friend. It's frustrating because we live in different states and there's no romantic feelings either way for us anymore....so I don't get why it's a big deal that I talk to her on the phone for probably around 20 minutes a week

The GF went to a Rangers game with her ex when she was in Dallas, I didn't bat an eye cause I trust her and I'm not worried about it

[KVN638]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=DeutschHistorian link=topic=132.msg1085#msg1085 date=1280854715]
[quote author=Joe Norris link=topic=132.msg1078#msg1078 date=1280853893]
For fear of backlash, I'm leaving this gender neutral, but I think we can agree that one gender is more apt to participating in this behavior

Personally, the GF and I are open with each other and this isn't really an issue, but one time when we were out I left my phone on the bar with her...she was a bit drunk and decided she'd check the phone out

out of habit, I delete all my texts probably two or three times a day...I think it stems from back in the day where you could only have like 50 texts at a time, but, nevertheless, there wasn't anything incriminating there

however, the call log appeared to have a ton of calls between myself and my "ex" who has been a friend much longer than she was a girlfriend...but, alas, apparently cause I hit that back in the day (haven't in two and a half years) the gf is jealous of her

The only reason it appeared that way was because I don't talk to that many people on the phone and I don't talk that often

Anyway I don't think it's ever legit to go snooping even if you are suspicious...

That was a long post, but what are your thoughts? Does the dynamic change when you're married?
[/quote]

Would this be Kara we're talking about? All girls want to think for some reason that you've never been with anyone else and that there is no way in hell you can just be friends with any girls even if they're like your best friend. She'll get over it though. It'd be pretty lame if she can't.
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I don't want to think about other guys pounding the girl I'm with either though...


Anyone else find it annoying when girls ask you who you've been with to see if they know any of them. I told them once and it ended fucking terribly. Anytime she saw any of these other girls she'd get pissy. I refuse to do it now.

[sweaterbydarwin]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

Bitches be crazy.

My wife once accused me of cheating after finding a pair of her own panties in our laundry that she forgot she owned.

//not electronics related.

[Joe Norris]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

I told my current GF that I don't want to know her "number" and there's no need for her to know mine

the only thing I cared about was that she was clean, and then we moved on...nothing good ever comes from dicussing who and how many

[Tannoudji]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G-d.

[sweaterbydarwin]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

All Hail Grod.



[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G--d.
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[LimeHawk]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G-d.
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So she doesn't mind that your idiot then? Good for her!! :mexican

[Tannoudji]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=LimeHawk link=topic=132.msg1106#msg1106 date=1280859119]
[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G-d.
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So she doesn't mind that [b]your[b] idiot then? Good for her!! :mexican
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Amazing, you can't write this stuff.

[KVN638]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1107#msg1107 date=1280859170]
[quote author=LimeHawk link=topic=132.msg1106#msg1106 date=1280859119]
[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G-d.
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Tannoudji. Haters gonna hate. Keep on pimpin.

So she doesn't mind that [b]your[b] idiot then? Good for her!! :mexican
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Amazing, you can't write this stuff.
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[RandytheHelpfulPineapple]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=sweaterbydarwin link=topic=132.msg1105#msg1105 date=1280859041]
All Hail Grod.



[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G--d.
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POTD.

[thedeerehunter]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

It's all about trust. The wife and I trust each other completely, therefore there is no reason to "snoop".

[DeutschHistorian]

Re: Your SO and your phone re: snooping

[quote author=RandytheHelpfulPineapple link=topic=132.msg1225#msg1225 date=1280881370]
[quote author=sweaterbydarwin link=topic=132.msg1105#msg1105 date=1280859041]
All Hail Grod.



[quote author=Tannoudji link=topic=132.msg1102#msg1102 date=1280858888]
Only those with something to hide should be scared of getting caught. My wife and I had a relationship of 100% honesty, which is only possible when you put yourselves in the eyes of G--d.
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POTD.
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:mexican :mexican